Chasing People

Okay, so I've never been one to always be in a relationship. Like, ever. But I can give some hella good advice if you need me to. At least, that's what people tell me! But there are some times when I'm like, "ooo, a boyfriend that sounds fun. I'll pick you!" And I chase this boy around just trying to make him like me.

 

But I was going about it all wrong. It is quite literally the worst way to get into a relationship. Do you know why? You aren't being your true self.

 

I found this while browsing Pinterest the other day and it hit the right cords at the time.

So, the end of last semester this guy started flirting with me. But at the time I was getting over a bad break-up and wasn't wanting to have him be a rebound even though, indirectly, he was. So summer came and we both went back home and barley talked. I replayed moments with him where we couldn't taken things to the next level but didn't. Sometimes I looked at those moments in regret, other times, I was glad nothing went further (not that it was far to begin with).

Band camp comes around and we start talking more but every time we do he always brings up this girl he had a thing with over the summer or a super hot girl in band, etc. Pretty much I felt like the last thing on his mind. And it didn't quite bother me. However, it seemed like everyone around me was in a relationship and I felt like I needed to have one to.

So naturally I picked him. And I chased him around, not quite acting like myself. A few weeks went by and things between us heated up. And I didn't know what to do. He kissed me and I wasn't sure where I wanted things to go between us.

I did a dumb thing and started to avoid him for a few days. Which wasn't bad because we were busy with band and it was easier to stay with our sections than to mix sections. But still. I was being a jerk to him.

After debating it, I didn't want a relationship. I mean, this might sound a bit harsh, but I didn't want a relationship with *him*. A relationship in general, hell yes...but not with this guy. I didn't, and still don't think, we know each other well enough. I've been told I have high standards but that's how I was raised and I'm in the mood of lowering my standards to please people.

I digress, because I had to debate whether or not I wanted something with him I felt like it was necessary to tell him no, I didn't want a relationship. That I want to focus on myself. Which is kind of silly, I've been focusing on myself for years. But the past few months is when I started being happy and comfortable with myself.

One of my apartment mates told me that I function extremely well being single. Most people, her included, can't function without having some sort of interest. And me, well, I can do my own thing and not care. When I find the right guy, I'll know. Maybe that's why I shut people down so often. Something inside me knows they aren't the right guy so I turn them away. Who knows.

I guess my point is don't chase people. Don't change yourself just to impress somebody. Whether it's a friend, coworker, or someone you want to date; just be yourself! As Dr. Seuss said:

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You”.

Daily Advice from a Band Director

 

 

 

Alright. I see this quote often, especially on Pinterest. I even hear it like, once a week or so from my band director. Lately, I've been telling this to myself. I went to about a month where everything was just so frustrating to me, especially the little things. This quote made everything a little easier. It sort of put everything into a perspective.

If you google this quote you'll probably get a few names of whomever said this. For me, it will always be my band director. When I read it, I read it in his voice.

Let's just think about this. Life. Your life. The life you are living right now. Is only 10%. TEN PERCENT! What happens to you.

The other 90%? Is your own reaction. Not your friend's or your neighbor's. Just yours. You control 90% of your life.

That's crazy!

I think everyone is guilty of getting caught up in the moment and freaking out over something that, in the long run, doesn't matter. As I go on this adventure into adulthood (yikes!) it's a lot of learning about when I should and shouldn't fuss over things. There are always going to be things that are out of my control. I have a hard time realizing sometimes that I can't control those situations. Nor can I control what others do. Event though sometimes I may want to.

But what can I control? Myself. I have full control over EVERYTHING that I do and say. And that, is powerful.

I have more control over more than I realize. And what do I do? I let the things I can't change and control get to me. Which in turn affects how I react. I let what happens to me control how I act. That's not a fun way to live.

It's going to take some work. But my goal by the end of the semester is to realize and focus my energy into how I react to things. I want to control myself. I don't want the situation or other to control me.

There will be more to come relating to this advice. There will also be a post in the near future about Western Thunder, I'm sure.

But for now, so long.
Go pokes.

And remember, You control more than you realize.

Welcome! First Post!

Hello! Welcome to my blog! I know the name is kind of cliché but I had been wanting to create a blog and couldn't think of the right title for it. So yes. Life's Roller Coaster. More specifically, my life's roller coaster.

Honestly, I'll probably rant and complain more than I should (and want to). I'm not a negative person either! But sometimes getting it out feels better. I don't know who will read this, or if anyone will... But if nobody does, that's fine too! This is just to keep me creative so I don't waste my time on Pinterest...which I do a lot. Oops. ;)

I'm hoping this will be a nice creative source for me to write stories or just talk about life or anything in general.

I am kind of obsessed with quotes and song lyrics so I'll probably end or start a post with a quote or lyric.

I hope you are prepared to join to me on this roller coaster ride called life.

Please keep your hands and feet in the ride at all times. ;) That was cheesy, I know, I couldn't help it.

Go Pokes. And stay positive. :)

"Life is about moments: Don't wait for them. Create them."